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[Grinder]

Had that problem too, today.
Anyway, I say you get things clean with Aniko. You know now how she felt when she told you she cheated on you. Just tell her everything you need to tell her, but calmly.

And plague, I didn't quite understand what you said about those two you knew. Please explain it to me...if that's not weird for you.

[Playbahnosh]

Originally posted by Grinder@Feb 2 2006, 10:30 PM
* Had that problem too, today.
Anyway, I say you get things clean with Aniko. You know now how she felt when she told you she cheated on you. Just tell her everything you need to tell her, but calmly.

And plague, I didn't quite understand what you said about those two you knew. Please explain it to me...if that's not weird for you.

She didn't told me that actually, I found that out myself. I was actually spoken with the guy she cheated me on. He told me everything. He is good dude and now we are friends, weird isn't it? She only told me her side of the story AFTER I confronted her with chat transscripts beetween she and the guy (the transscripts I got from the dude). But then she was lying in my face. So she was out to trying to hide that thing from me, thus taking me for an absolute moron and making me look like an idiot. I had to practically pull the whole thing out of her with force(verbal). I was the IDIOT to give her another chance <_<

Yes I told her the whole thing with Gabi, I thought it's only fair. But she just slammed the phone in my face and banned me on MSN. Well, why should I cripple myself? She were the one cheating on me and now she can't take it back on her? Pathetic...

What "the two you know" do you mean? Please explain. Then I'd be happy to clear things out for you...

[Tulac]

Well if that is so, why'd you feel bad about Aniko in the first place, the way your posting now, it's like you almost needed an excuse to get out of the relationship...

[Playbahnosh]

Yeah, I guess you are right Neven. Somewhere I needed an excuse to leave her for good. I feel stupid....

[Scatty]

Why stupid? Aniko was rather using you, and left you by the first opportunity that came up, lying to you afterwards. You even didn't need to tell her about Gabi but to entirely stop to contact her, and that would be pretty ok if you ask me. But as she got to know about you and Gabi she became upset that she wasn't able to hold you at her side anymore like she wanted. Don't you see how actually bad she is?
You don't need to feel stupid that you needed an excuse to leave her, if she didn't leave you not long ago, she would do that sometime later anyway and without telling you. Might sound a little selfish what I wrote here, but sometimes you need a healthy portion of selfishness to shield yourself from others, as otherwise you would be hurt and hurt and that aches...

[Grinder]

I meant how Plague said that he knew two people who didn't do it, and then everyone cried at the same time or something. I really didn't get it.
Scatty might be right, though. From everything you told us. She could have been just using you.

[Playbahnosh]

I think you guys are right. She was using me all along and tried to contol me. I called her yesterday and we agreed on a case fire, everybody goes on his/he own way and we won1t harass each other. this chapter is over...

But Gabi became my biggest issue. She seems more and more like avoiding me, getting content. She is still nice and caring, but I feel a certain decrease in her emotions. Jeez, I don't know if I can hold out until Sunday :tai:

[Iron_Scarecrow]

Well she has two people to think of. Before she would have been getting caught up in her feelings of you, now I'd say her feelings for the other guy have caught up so she has backed off a little.

She is most likely very, very confused right now. You'll have to be patient with her.

[Playbahnosh]

Yeah you may be right Crow. But the thing is I havent heard about Peter since monday, so I don't know what's up(or was, maybe) beetween them Gabi didn't speak about him by herself, and I didn't asked (for obvious reasons). I can only guess what is happening beetween them, but I feel(fear?) nothing, that they are together still. But it's hard to guess someones emotions over phone, especiall if she is nice and caring on the phone, I just can't see her eyes(that cannot lie).

Argh, it may be the best to wait and leave her alone for at least until Sunday, but I fear if I don't keep her emotions towards me at peek, they will vanish until then....

:tai:

[Iron_Scarecrow]

Hmmm, I don't want to give you false hope or anything. And I hate giving advice in case it's wrong.

But the way I see it, you know nothing on what's going on between Gabi and Peter, so chances are he has no idea what's happening between you and Gabi, he may think you'd just walk away and isn't trying to show her more love to keep her interested, but you seem willing to fight for her love so you could sneak in and steal her away.

But even if he is aware or showing her extra love, you seem willing, and when there's a will there's a way. Maybe just a short phone call everyday to make sure she doesn't forget you.