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Old 24-02-2015, 04:59 PM   #1
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Unhappy I have had a difficult time getting over losing two female support workers!

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I have a form of autism in real life, which makes gaining any social connections outside of professional relationships rather tough. For a long time, I have also suffered from anxiety and I find shopping in supermarkets by myself a challenge, due to being agoraphobic, so I get my main shopping delivered. You could say that I relied on my support staff to assist me and keep me entertained. Unfortunately, I quit my support last year because that agency screwed me over and I have had my life ruined by all of this crap they put me through.

There was a time a woman called Laura had been using me for my money and lying to me. It was a painful time in my life, especially since I had spent several years searching for her after I met her in 2005 and I did not go out with her for very long. In my mind, I kind of still love her, but I am not sure why I still consider her as someone special, since yes - I was being abused.

A few years ago, I started working with a Spanish support worker named Sara who was really nice when we first had shifts together. She also became my key worker and I was proud to have met her. Back then, she was such a sweet person - I can assure you of that. Unfortunately, I developed feelings for both her and another woman called Joanna. Then I revealed this to other workers, including a guy called Robert who I often played pool and snooker with. The seniors took Joanna off my team of helpers because I felt they lied to me regarding my rota and then she reported me for posting about her on Facebook.

This tattletale stuff just created an awkward situation as I first lost this Joanna, then Sara. Once Sara revealed she knew I liked her once I slipped up, she changed and started to bully me for a while, right up until the seniors removed her as my key worker. While we were apart for many weeks, I got suspicious and I just knew she had been removed as my key worker before the people she works for officially announced it. Then when she saw me around, she looked uncomfortable or she tried to pick on me again. There was also a time I waited for her going home just to try to talk to her nicely, but she freaked out and got in a taxi. The company also disabled her work e-mail address and she stopped doing sleepovers at the accommodation I was in before.

After a while, I felt so sad that neither woman was going to support me again, that I went nuts and sent them disgusting messages on Facebook. This caused me to be remanded in prison before a court hearing. Shortly after I got out of jail, I was arrested twice more just for saying sorry to them on Facebook, so the judge sent me back to jail for 17 days, in September.

Since then, I have been arrested in January for contacting them again since they obviously do not care about me and I have to be back in court this week. But I really miss them. And I regret the things I said to them before, but their boss Cathy will not bring them back. Apart from this, I still cannot go back to my flat because the staff work in flat 1 next door to where I stayed until July of last year. The court bailed me to live with my family, so it is annoying me now that I am being denied access to my flat.
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Old 24-02-2015, 08:19 PM   #2
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Oh, man, your life is soo hard. Sorry for you.
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Old 24-02-2015, 08:25 PM   #3
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How about psychiatric control? Some mentor-group?

I don't see what you expect from US here. You need to be 'cause of your condition verbal is not physical restrain.

The only thing that comes to my mind is, to remove them from your friend-list, address-book etc. That'll make harder for you to contact them from your mania. If that does still not help, than you'll definitely need professional help,and maybe even medication.

Otherwise best wishes
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Old 25-02-2015, 04:11 PM   #4
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I dont get what female support workers are, i want them too!

Anyway im very surprised to know you can go to jail for facebook, only in the usa i guess.
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Old 25-02-2015, 10:18 PM   #5
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I dont get what female support workers are, i want them too!

Anyway im very surprised to know you can go to jail for facebook, only in the usa i guess.
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Old 26-02-2015, 07:09 AM   #6
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I dont get what female support workers are, i want them too!

Anyway im very surprised to know you can go to jail for facebook, only in the usa i guess.
I live in Edinburgh.
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Old 26-02-2015, 03:56 PM   #7
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Same race
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Old 27-02-2015, 10:25 PM   #8
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Would I be right in saying caregivers are just kind of putting on an act at work?
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I think it would be a case for psychology and psychiatry.

The (Agora) phobia, Autism, Emotional Symbiosis and Reliance on strangers need the supervision of a psychotherapist. He/She may guide and recommend how you do and your behaviors that are appropriate with the standards of good conduct.

In the case of psychiatry, it only sees the drug as solution without considering the patient’s feelings and emotions. Although it is purely technical and scientific, it can still help you along with complementing psychotherapy.

I was very surprised that you have been arrested since generally people who have disorders like Autism should be punished less severely. All those who have any kind of disorders need medical and psychological help so that they can be reintegrated into society.

I really hope you are well and you can get better soon so that you have a good quality of life.
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