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[rlbell]

Originally Posted by DoomYoshi

If I lived in Rotterdam, I would beware

I am feeling confused because I am feeling despondent but I should be feeling happy. I have achieved every man's dream: permission to cheat on his girlfriend. However, even though she totally agreed to it as long as it was only with one girl, nobody else agrees to it. People are saying I should respect her and not do it anyways. The people in my play are not talking to me unless they have to. My social group has totally excluded me. My relationship with both girls has suffered. I am alone... and an asshole.

It seems to me that you might have a healthy conscience, pay more attention to what it tells you, in future, and you will be well served by it. You are experiencing guilt, because you are not the hedonistic libertine that you thought you were. Worse, you tried it among peers that do not really accept such things.

Not that I am a source of sage advice, on relationships, but I feel that you should explain to the second woman that it was a gross error in judgement and break it off. After that, go back to the first woman and apologize for putting her in the horrid position of having to choose between allowing you to dally, or risk losing you. If she accepts you, have her talk to your friends. Otherwise, bemoan the terrible fate of getting exactly what you wished for, so your friends will realise that you are a repentent former-asshole. To sum up: seek forgiveness and acquire a taste for crow, as you will be eating plenty.

If you are catholic, go to confession-- that is what it is for.

[AlumiuN]

@Arete: All I'm going to say, in a very definite tone of voice, is

THANKS.

@Ian: Arete is right. If you talk to them very quietly and in a discertive manner, they are forced to look at you and listen to you, allowing to get your point across much more effectively. If you can insert some advanced language and speak very fluently and without stuttering for long periods of time and without swearing at them, even better. That approach has got me out of some fairly serious situations.

Of course, if that doesn't work there are two other options often explored:

A: Dean/Principal/Teacher/Whoever can do nasty stuff to them (Michael Jackson included)

B: Fistfight! (this usually isn't very effective and could lead to a police investigation, so I don't recommend it)

[_r.u.s.s.]

Originally Posted by ianfreddie07

Cheated part: The weekends are usually my computer gaming time. But I had to attend my practice for my english project from 8am-12pm. Then my dad tells me to eat first before I can use the soon-to-be-vacant computer. Then her new girlfriend (20 y.o. compared to my dad's 50 y.o.) comes along and wants to use it too. I asked my dad if I could use it first. Then he tells me "Your *name of dad's gf* will use the PC". I get cross because I'm the one who sacrificed 5 hours of playtime for practice time, and has school every weekday while my dad's gf almost does nothing but play until late in the morning, everyday unless she goes somewhere.

why didn't you ask that *name of dad's gf* lol?

[AlumiuN]

Originally Posted by _r.u.s.s.

why didn't you ask that *name of dad's gf* lol?

That is true.

[ianfreddie07]

I asked her on a few occasions but she usually said "Later" (which turns out to be 2-3am) or was deaf as a post.

[Spoonman]

A bit overloaded, but happy (in my own materialistic way):

This week I received
* Samsung SyncMaster 245Bplus 24" widescreen monitor
* A Sapphire Radeon HD 4850 512MB videocard
* A green hookah with quite some Herbal Molasses
* more Nespresso cups

:nuts:

(and to prevent my mood from being spoiled I'm just gonna pretend this was all for free )

[arete]

My skin is dry. No wait, that's an understatement... My skin is like the Kalahari in winter. And my lips. And my nose. And now my eyes as well.

But just because my eyes are red and veined like the Nile Delta, doesn't mean I'm a werewolf... Not at all...

[AlumiuN]

Two exams down, one to go :thumbs:

[_r.u.s.s.]

Originally Posted by Spoonman

A bit overloaded, but happy (in my own materialistic way):

This week I received
* Samsung SyncMaster 245Bplus 24" widescreen monitor
* A Sapphire Radeon HD 4850 512MB videocard
* A green hookah with quite some Herbal Molasses
* more Nespresso cups

:nuts:

(and to prevent my mood from being spoiled I'm just gonna pretend this was all for free )

you lucky bastard

[Kugerfang]

Lucky bastard. I can barely scrape enough money to buy Battlefield 2.