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[Hunter Hunted]

First of all, apologies for just signing back in after all this time to post this.

Anyway, I'm an autistic 26 year old man from Scotland and I was reunited with a woman called Laura who I had not seen in person since we were 19. We met in a shop we worked in, way back in 2005.

I left her in 2005 because she had annoying friends that kept harassing me. I only saw her for a few months, so to most people it should have just been written off as an unlucky experience. However, I really liked her and so I wanted to try again with her.

I tried to find this person online for years, but until last year, I only found a Bebo profile that she never logged back into. I come across people who knew her, but they got rather nasty towards me and made out she wasn't interested in contacting me. She then text me one day in March this year to ask me to go on Facebook, so I did.

After a week of being back in my life, she blackmailed me to get her an iPod. She claims nobody told her I was searching for her. Because I didn't want to break up with her, I got her it, even though my mother knew she was a money grabber. Then I lost half my allowance money which wasn't expected and I had to pay up this iPod with whatever little money I had. She actually broke it too and I paid to get it repaired. Then she started lying to me about this Matthew guy she has known for years and other things. Plus, she was not showing any affection, etc. We broke up around April and she made out I was a friend, but she carried on seeing her ex, who she claims was a "friend" as well, while expecting a handout from me.

I got her expensive presents for her birthday, but she obviously knew I was only buying her that stuff so she'd stay with me, although I wanted to show I love her. Then a few weeks ago, I got so sick of her crap that I told her we were done forever, then she got nasty. I broke into her Facebook shortly there after and messaged all her ignorant friends, and relatives, then they turned against me. My ex-girlfriend then went back to Matt in a flash and I've had problems trying to contact her mobile because she has it turned off. When I did get her on the odd occasion though, she just screamed at me and/or made a fool of me. Now the cops want to come and talk to me.

However, I believe she deserved that lesson, but it's cost me much more. What do you think? I'm quite upset about all this.

[Capo]

Cool story bro.

[TotalAnarchy]

It might've been painful, but there is nothing else to do but move on. It's just like with games, pay less attention to nostalgia and look for the qualities that can last for a long time in the future. Most of the people stumble through the dark their entire lives searching for the correct solution. Thus, when you fail, you shouldn't take it so close to the heart, it's not the end of the world. There is no time to be depressed about it, good things will happen as long as there is future, as long as you try to obtain them.

[Hunter Hunted]

Yeah. And at least online, we all like the same games usually.

[MyVitalRemains]

Just try to avoid communicating with her at all cost. Unfriend her on thefacebook.com and try to go on with your life. If she only came to you again for expensive things then she doesn't (and didn't) deserve your affection.

[Hunter Hunted]

It's gonna be hard to let go of her, cos I loved her. I mean, yeah, she was a bitch and all. What user isn't?

However, I did spend years looking for her. Guess I just am unlucky. How on Earth can someone be such a cow and not even see how bad her actions were to me?

[MyVitalRemains]

Originally Posted by Hunter Hunted

It's gonna be hard to let go of her, cos I loved her. I mean, yeah, she was a bitch and all. What user isn't?

However, I did spend years looking for her. Guess I just am unlucky. How on Earth can someone be such a cow and not even see how bad her actions were to me?

I read in the thread that you were talking to her friends and relatives on thefacebook.com. Well you could give them a long detailed list of all things that she did to you and then they ought to change her view on her. A bit of revenge.

[The Fifth Horseman]

With all due respect, when you break up, you're supposed to BREAK UP and not drag it out. Both sides are at fault here - she for being a money-grabber, you for acting like a goddamn stalker.
NOBODY sane breaks into their ex's account ANYWHERE just to exact some moronic revenge.

[Hunter Hunted]

Even though she was really cruel to me, I tried very hard to love her. Really, I did.

It's a wonder I got back with her in the first place, although I was well warned that something like this may have happened, because people who know both her and me knew trouble was on the horizon. Nobody said it to hurt my feelings. They just had a hunch that she would use me and lose me. Now that it has not seen a pretty finish, I'm at a loss of words.

Was there something I could have done better? I tried my best.

[dosraider]

Originally Posted by Hunter Hunted

Was there something I could have done better? I tried my best.

Maybe a bit insensitive, but this:

Grow a pair.

.... and please, get on with your life.