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[Ajax]

Sebastianos, you have a good point. Sometimes it can be hard to distinguish someone's characteristics, attributes, and personality from their actions. I do think, however, that someone's actions reflect a lot on who that person is. The example of MJ was a bad one, I admit. But, I do know a kid that goes to my university that rubs me the wrong way. I swear, if there was someone that I'd just love to rough up, it'd be him. Having said that, I still have the utmost respect for him. He's extremely intelligent and seems to be good with other people. I just think he's cocky, so I don't like him. Like I said before though, is it better to have respect or someone's approval?

Respect is something you earned with worthy deeds (usually). I think it' more worth than approval.

[quatroking]

Indeed this is a good topic!
I respect people becouse uhh...... otherwise it was booooooriiiiiing....

Originally posted by quatroking@Feb 18 2005, 08:32 PM
I respect people becouse uhh...... otherwise it was booooooriiiiiing....

And because you otherwise wouldn't have many friends. :bleh:

[Kon-Tiki]

Help too much and people'll trample over you, though. They'll just only come talk to you when they need anything done and are too lazy to do it themselves. The trick is to judge where help is needed and where not or you'll lose respect and become people's wipingcloth.

[ReamusLQ]

DragonLancer, next time please edit your post to avoid double posting.

As for respect goes...I've found I am respected most, when I give respect to those around me. I help in anyway possible as well though. People know they can come to me if they need something done (I'm mainly talking music here, because that is my main leadership position.), and I will have it finished for them the next day (or the next hour, depending on what it is.) But you also need to demonstrate that you deserve respect. One kid who was in percussion this year with me HATED me, but he always asked me for help on his parts, and he listened when I spoke because he knew I was a better mallet player than he was. However, you can not flaunt your superiority around, or else people will think of you as arrogant and you will lose respect. If you are good at what you do, people will notice you without having to put extra effort to get noticed.

[Sebatianos]

Now that was a good example of respecting someone!
Dragonlancer is a new member (Welcome to the SITE) and has made a mistake.
Out of respect for him ReamusQL didn't shout or anything, he just politely told him something for the future reference.
Dragonlancer then was unclear about what was wrong - so there was a little misunderstandmant, but still he was respectful and tried to follow the rules.
ReamusQL then explained the rules futhrer and everything was peachy! That's the way to go.
Someone impatient or disrespectful would just start a conflict and would even chase Dragonlancer away.
But the respect didn't end there. They even exchanged curtasies - by saying "thank you" and "any time".

So being respectful also means that you show good manors.
I know most of us try to do that all the time, but I would just like to give big k: as this could be a great example - and it in the right topic.

[ReamusLQ]

thank you, thank you Give a hand for my partner in this demonstration here dragonlancer, he's a great guy. Go on, take a bow son! k:

[Schabernakel-anbeter]

edit : stupid citatation


maybe we should just let people live "like they want", i meant

Well, in that case there's no reason to let you live, right? After all, you don't respect anyone.